Heal The Soul - Not The Inner Child
- starofavyon
- Dec 2, 2022
- 6 min read
Updated: Feb 24
Why Inner Child Healing is a Misconception and It's Really About Healing the Soul.
After a spiritual awakening, the first thing you want to do is consume all the information you can get your hands on.
Spiritual books and blogs, podcasts, YouTube and TikTok clips soon become overwhelming.
It is very difficult not to believe everything you see, read or hear, wondering what is true and what is not.
I remember many times when I didn`t pay attention to my intuition and believed what was in front of me.
However part of the awakening process is understanding discernment. And just as important it is to recognise what is right for you.
My own curiosity and suspicious nature led me to explore two widely discussed themes in spirituality; They are: The concept of healing the inner child and the concept of self-love.
Is inner child healing a myth?
I do believe inner child healing is healing the soul. When healing, the focus should be holistic. The body, mind, spirit and soul.
Or it can be the four bodies of the spiritual self; the mental, physical, emotional and etheric.
It isn't just about one aspect of who we are. Yet there is so much focus on healing the inner child that I feel we have built it up to be something more than what it is.
Over the years and before spirituality was a popular choice for many, we lost sight of why we are choosing to heal ourselves or choosing to heal aspects of ourselves.
Years ago, information that we read today was channelled from whoever was downloading that information.
It is not to say what was channelled was wrong or right. I think we just got lost along the way and stopped questioning everything we consumed.
As a collective consciousness, we have grown and expanded. More souls are awakened now than ever before. The channelled information we see on social media or blogs has become saturated.
Not to mention also the dissolution of a false light with some spiritual gurus doing a complete 180 on their teachings or following a woke narrative.
I feel many of us had to realign our beliefs and morals with those who had the same mindset, myself included.
But, what does this have to do with inner child healing?
The answer to that is what if this theory has evolved but we haven't evolved with it?
Is it ego, inner child or something else?
I have been on a spiritual awakening since 2015. In my psychic development classes all those years ago I was questioning my teachers. Not to be right but to explore it more and for me to use my discernment, as so should you.
I will never tell you what you should or shouldn’t believe, regardless of what I write in my blogs. In the end, you can decide if you agree or disagree.
The term Child Ego State, which in some models is called the Inner Child, was originally coined by Eric Berne, a Canadian psychoanalyst. It was published by Eric that there is a three ego-state model with a Parent, a Child, and an Adult, in which only the Adult is in contact with the here and now.
If it is true and it is really an ego of sorts then why does it need healing?
Why is the word ego mentioned when it has to do with the inner child?
Why is it set out so that it has a parent, child, and adult aspect? It is confusing to me and leaves me with more questions than answers.
In my opinion, I do not believe there should be separation. The ego is also a part of us, it is not outside of us.
It is suggested that it should be embraced and integrated into who we are whether we like it or not.
Isn't this the problem?
We are bringing division and separation within ourselves. As soul-focused conscious beings and in Spirituality it is about oneness and being whole. We have different components but they are not separate.
They are healed individually so that we may heal all of ourselves, the light and the dark. The seen and the unseen.
What annoys me more is more pressure on ourselves to try and heal the "proper way" or the way we are supposed to heal that will eventually bring you into some magical realm of enlightenment.
Very few attain that on earth.
All this does, is just add another label to the already long list of labels humans.
It can then become toxic positivity because it is all surface level stuff. Or we are following an influencer without any reasoning behind it if it is right for you or not.
Trauma healing and the inner child
Is it true then to say healing our trauma, especially when it occurred in childhood is what we believe inner child healing?
We may have experienced trauma at any stage of our life so why does the "inner child" only need healing?
When I first learned of healing the inner child it suggested that talking a connecting to yourself as a young child was the way to repair the pain and hurt you experienced at that time in your life.
Traumatic experiences don't only occur in our younger years, they are occur all through our years incarnating on this planet. In addition, we also inherit the emotions of trauma from generations before us. We can even absorb trauma from those around us.
I feel healing the inner child is saying - here put in a box and label it. It doesn't feel to me that we cage it in and there are no other variables outside of this.
I feel that It is not the healing of the inner child that we should focus on but the trauma associated with an experience that occurred in childhood or at any age.
This trauma is what lingers in the soul (and body) if not healed.
I feel we forget also that the soul is innate. And that the cells hear, see and feel every single emotion and experience during your entire life.
As an energy healer who assists the collective, I travel on journeys with my clients to help them retrieve parts of their souls for healing.
It always comes back to clear the trauma from which, an emotion has surfaced. Or it hasn’t had a safe space to be released out of our energy bodies.
It has remained dormant in this life or a past life or pushed deep down. That emotion then sets up home as an energy block in our cells and DNA.
That can, in turn, have a domino effect on other parts of one's life. We become out of alignment, and we feel heavy and have a deep inner feeling of something unresolved within us.
When we can address the trauma, where it came from, and what caused it to remain behind in the body is when we can ask ourselves if we are ready to let it go to be healed and released.
Healing energy to be transformed
The "inner child" is the words we have used as humans to make sense of something, we back it with a scientific explanation when in my opinion is outdated and that it is just energy.
An energy that can be transformed into healing, into light into divine pure love. The same energy surrounds you and is within you, it all requires attention.
The same goes for the soul, it is nothing more nothing less. And, our consciousness rests within a vessel - our body.
It sits in the driving seat of your life, dances in the light, and dances in the darkness but never changes its identity or purpose.
Our consciousness acknowledges the awareness we need and triggers the subconscious parts of the soul to initiate the healing.
Isn't this a good place to start to begin the healing? we intend to eventually heal all of ourselves, not just parts of us or the box that we put the inner child into.
Final thoughts
It is for our highest good to approach healing holistically.
When we awaken it is normal to feel the pressure to be doing what everyone is doing or healing a particular way. It is never linear, rather we can remove the pressure and find the way that is right for us.
I guide you to stop focusing on just healing one tiny bit of your divine self or feeling you have to reparent yourself from a soul level.
The soul seeks expansion and evolution, it moves forward while acknowledging the past.
It does not try to remain boxed in a label that was generated 30 years ago when our consciousness levels were more childlike than they are now.
Healing the inner child is healing the soul. It is bringing back parts of who you are that may have been left behind, and remembering who really are to share with the rest of the world.
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